Make Your Husband's Coffee: A Morning Ritual for a Happy Household

I want to dive into the topic of morning routines and how they can impact the dynamics of a household. Specifically, how I fill my husband’s love tank in the morning and how it sets us up for success. As a morning person married to a self-proclaimed non-morning person, I have discovered that this simple, easy thing can make a significant difference in our marriage. I am going to share my experience and how it has impacted my marriage and home.

Morning Struggle Bus

“Since I was a little kid, my dad was a morning person. He would wake up at a crazy hour and have pancakes and bacon and sausage and eggs and everything cooking. And I would wake up at 06:00 a.m. And come out and we would have breakfast together.”

Growing up with a father who embraced the early hours of the day, I naturally inherited his enthusiasm for mornings. However, when I got married, I realized that my husband had a completely different relationship with mornings. He has never been a morning person since the beginning and we have a running joke that he can sleep through anything.

The Morning Person vs. the Night Owl

I'm a light sleeper. I'm a mom. I think once you become a mom, the tiniest little sneeze can wake you up even if you're in the other room. I never understood how he didn't hear us awake and not get up with us.

As a mother, my senses are heightened, and even the slightest noise can jolt me awake. This stark contrast between my husband's ability to sleep through anything and my own alertness in the mornings became a point of contention for me. I couldn't comprehend how he could be oblivious to the sounds of our morning household with two little boys.

The Power of a Gesture

“My biggest piece of advice is to make your husband’s coffee. And that is not just to get him out of bed. That is to make the mornings better for everybody in the house.”

As a wife, I realized that I have the power to create a more harmonious morning routine. I discovered the power of making my husband's coffee. It may seem like a small gesture, but it has had a profound impact on our family dynamics. By taking care of the person who struggles the most in the mornings, I have found that the entire household benefits. It sets a positive tone for the day and fosters a sense of unity and support.

Consistency and Commitment

“I used to do this when we were in a rough spot, but I would only do it on the days where I felt like doing it and I was motivated to do it and I wanted to do it. The first slight little inconvenience, or if I was irritated, I would be like, I’m not making him coffee.”

When I first started doing this, I’ll be the first to admit that I wasn't always consistent. There were times when I let my emotions dictate whether or not I would make my husband's coffee. However, I soon realized that true commitment meant doing it even on the days when I didn't feel like it. This small act of kindness became a way for us to leave on a positive note, regardless of any disagreements or frustrations we may have had.

A Morning Routine That Works

Over time, our morning routine has evolved. Instead of nagging my husband to wake up, I have found a more gentle approach. I go into our room, open the curtains, and offer him coffee. It has become our little ritual, a way for him to rise without feeling pressured or rushed. This gentle nudge has made it easier for him to start his day, even though he is not naturally a morning person.

Understanding Differences and Finding Balance

“He’s not a morning person, so usually the morning times are a major struggle with him getting out the door and getting to work. So not only do I make him coffee, but I help him get out the door.”

It is important to acknowledge and accept our differences. My husband's struggle with mornings is not something he can easily change, just as I cannot transform myself into a night owl. Instead of trying to change each other, we have learned to support one another in our respective strengths and weaknesses. Making my husband's coffee is just one part of the equation. I also help him get ready for work, whether it's finding his wallet or making lunch. It's created a sense of balance and understanding in our relationship.

The Power of Small Gestures

“It’s that little gesture in the morning that just says, hi, good morning. And who doesn’t love a warm cup of coffee?”

The beauty of making your husband's coffee lies in its simplicity. It is a small gesture that speaks volumes. By taking the time to prepare a warm cup of coffee, we are not only saying "good morning" but also expressing our love and care. It sets a positive tone for the day and creates an atmosphere of appreciation and gratitude. After all, who doesn't love to start their day with a comforting cup of coffee?

“I don’t think I’m ever going to change him. That’s not the goal. I’m not trying to change him and make him a morning person. But our mornings are so much more smooth when I can make him his coffee and when he has to get ready for work.”

The act of making your husband's coffee can have a profound impact on the dynamics of your household. It is not about changing your partner or forcing them to become a morning person. Instead, it is about creating a harmonious routine that supports each other's strengths and weaknesses. By making this small gesture, you can set a positive tone for the day and foster a sense of unity within your family. Now of course, making coffee may not be the magic gesture that brings peace to your home. Maybe it’s helping to pack a lunch or choosing to do a chore your partner dislikes. Try to find something small that will make a big impact and be consistent with it!

As I look to the future, I am excited to continue this morning ritual and explore other ways to support and uplift my husband. Our journey as a couple is a constant evolution, and by embracing our differences and finding ways to connect, we can create a loving and harmonious household.

So, if you find yourself in a similar situation, I encourage you to give it a try. Make your husband's coffee and witness the positive impact it can have on your mornings and your relationship. After all, sometimes it's the smallest gestures that make the biggest difference.